Scout - these things are a matter of "how you hear"
But if you bite and devour one another take heed that you are not consumed by one another.
To you that appears to mean an offense in nastiness, but you are what you eat, and surely you have read enough bible words to know that when you eat something you become like it - eg. don't eat hawks, but, eat Jesus. The wtbts has taught you to read these things literally, according to the flesh.
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But refuse to enrol younger widows; for when they grow wanton against Christ they desire to marry, and so they incur condemnation for having violated their first pledge. Besides that, they learn to be idlers, gadding about from house to house, and not only idlers but gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not. So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, rule their households, and give the enemy no occasion to revile us. For some have already strayed after Satan. If any believing woman has relatives who are widows, let her assist them; let the church not be burdened, so that it may assist those who are real widows.
Have a good look at that last bit so that it may assist those who are real widows There are widows who have lost their earthly husbands, and spiritual widows (it's not about literal women, but souls) who learn to say what they should not - very much
like as in jwism. When they grow wanton against Christ, their first pledge (goodness), they seek another lover, another word so they may gad about from house to house busybodying, whereas they would be better off bearing children (fruit) and ruling their own households (theirself); some had already strayed after Satan (who disguises as an angel of light) or another 'word' (and the one you live with now is not your husband).
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What causes wars, and what causes fightings among you? Is it not your passions that are at war in your members? You desire and do not have; so you kill (the spirit)
So for the christian, the war is in themself
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Scout, I think you still can't get your head around the issue of jws being wrong, and inept, and that judging 'christians' is how to continue to use a bottle of blame for sauce without speaking against 'mother'.